Taking care of yourself comes first, but what’s a healthy balance of taking care of yourself and others at the same time?
As discussed in my post about over-committing yourself, taking care of you is paramount to anything else going on. But, it’s important not to get complacent in taking care of yourself because it could lead to losing the things that are important to you.
Specifically when it comes to those periods of high strung stress, it’s important to recognize when you need a social break, and take a day or two for your own rejuvenation. The problem only arises when it gets too comfortable to shut others out and just focus on your own well being.
So how do you take care of yourself while also staying committed to the things that are important to you? That requires some self-evaluation.
As a college student, I find myself shutting others out way too easily when I get stressed. I make myself an excuse and say, “Well, it’s been a stressful week I just need some time alone.” However, I’ve noticed that some of my friendships aren’t as strong as they once were because I’ve been too busy focusing on my own well being and not taking note of my friends. The truth is, you are never going to know exactly what someone is going through, but as friends and simply just humans, we have a responsibility to not only ourselves, but to our loved ones as well.
If you start noticing that maybe your friendships aren’t as strong or your lacking something more personal in your life, then try reaching out. A simple meal or coffee with someone can go a long way, and it can build that friendship so that you’re allies when times get tough. Our lives are somewhat dependent on social connection because it’s one of the little things that give us purpose. Taking the time to focus on others and checking in with your loved ones can help bring comfort to your mind instead of always worrying about your own self.
Moving forward, remember your limits when it comes to handling stress while also being a social butterfly. If you notice yourself putting too much on your plate, take a hot minute and practice some self-care. But, don’t get complacent. Bounce back into the real world after a while and start checking in with your friends and be a contributor to their lives. You never know what can come from a coffee with a friend just to check in.